To My Brother

Well... this one started as a message on my A-Psi brother's xanga... and it got so amazingly long that I decided I'd post it on my blog... brother, I hope you don't mind I've stolen your entry's topic... I've made this message public, but not your identity. so those who know, know. and those who dont, wont : )
I think you pose such an important question about society's reaction to homosexuality (and vice versa).. and my boyfriend and I were talking about this last night. I wish people would just stop pointing fingers and start talking about sexuality and relationships... so here I go... let's see where this takes us : ) maybe you can reply from your blog... but in any case, here's my thoughts on that entry of yours... in any case, I am pro gay marriage... and dear, if anyone goes to heaven or hell (and I do believe we're going somewhere), it won't be because of their sexuality.

hey, brother! hope you are feeling better... I think we all feel like that sometimes... hehe.. I go through that stuff a whole lot... but yeah, if you have the strength, then keep going, and everything will eventually fall in place. I know you are a strong person and will be able to go through this one too and come out winning. I think that the thing about friendships is people have to be willing to give and take, and many go into relationships (of all kinds, not just friendships) with the idea of "what can I get from this?" and forget that they too must make an effort... old friends are great, if they really are friends... sometimes new friends are just as great : ) friends choose each other, I think... and it takes some wisdom to do so... gotta be able to see through people and know who they really are... and gotta care about them too.. and you have be willing to loose sometimes... Friendship is a complicated thing... and being in a society with mixed feelings about sexuality only makes it harder for homosexual and bisexual people to feel at home. I think we just have to give people in general some time to sort out their feelings and beliefs... I think the matter of making different sexual choices is just a big of a deal for people who interact with those who make those choices as it is for you and those who actually make them... Especially for people who adhere to a faith, it poses a very difficult question. Do you accept it? Do you tolerate it? What do you do with the passages in the Bible that go against it? good grief, even straight people have to make choices too, and we don't always make the best ones. I've always been curious as to what a Christian gay man thinks about his sexuality and about how he reconciles it with his faith. Many of my Religious Studies professors argue the Scripture is not to be taken as the main foundation for a person's faith. I disagree... but I also disagree that the Scripture is to be taken as an excuse to persecute others. I wonder when the witch-hunt will end. On the other hand, I do think gay people are a little sensitive to the topic, which makes it hard for people to come out and say what they think, for fear of saying something the wrong way and offending someone. I know gay people have many good reasons to be sensitive about the situation, but honest, even if harsh dialoge is the only thing that will get all of this resolved. it is obvious that politics don't quite do the work... I think it's a matter of being understanding of your friends, who are going through a social change, just as they are to be understanding of you. I think we all have that double responsibility of 1) resolving our personal struggle with sexuality while 2) realizing that other people are struggling with it too, and understanding when, in their confusion, they slip and say or do something wrong.

as for the independence matter, well, one gains independence little by little. it's all about school right now, and a house and a car and a better job come afterwards, if you really concentrate in school... I think a little sacrifice and a lot of hard work and concentration will take you a long ways... just give it time... and Im sure that as long as your parents see that you are giving it your best, you won't have to worry about them thinking one way or another... the rest of us, as your parents probably do, couldn't care less if you are independent or not... in any case, most of us aren't independent yet ... and even if we are, we care about you being strong and well... about you striving to be the best that you can... about you being the friend that we are so glad to be able to have.

Patience, brother. Just give it time. with time, society will solve this problem we have, and in time you will be able to have the comfort of a stable life style.. that's what we're all working on, right? ; ) I think we should enjoy this part of our life, even if it is a preparation for all of those thing we are waiting for. every stage has it pros and cons... so enjoy, even if you don't have everything, there are many things that you do have... so have fun, and work hard... and be happy... I say the heck with social injustice. either ignore it or fight it, but be happy. love ya... hope it all gets better...
Un beso,
~Your sis